One man seeks to divorce his wife. Another eagerly waits to marry the same lady. The lady being the same, produces joy to one and sorrows to another. Hence joy and sorrow is not in the person, but how you relate to him or her. That makes all the difference. The art of relating to others is based on right assessment of the people you contact, dropping preferential attachment and developing pure love, performing duties and not claiming rights and above all, following the principle of giving rather than taking. Learn this art and apply it in your life. It should make any relationship work.